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Ten Helps for an Alzheimer’s Family

Like millions of other people, my neighbor Bob cared for a loved one with Alzheimer’s Disease. For three years, I watched Bob’s wife, a once bright and vivacious woman, turn into a shell of her former self. When I met them in the condo hallway, she gave me a blank look. Then Bob gently told her, “Say hello.” With
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Create a Great Funeral Day

Yes, this is a real “holiday.” Observed on October 30th, this holiday was registered in 1999 as a day for people to think about how they want to be remembered and let your family know your plans. Avoid a “Facelift Funeral” with Create a Great Funeral Day by Gail Rubin acknowledges the fear that people have about
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What Are My Choices Regarding Life Support?

My wife’s aunt and her husband became seriously ill at the same time. Although married 58 years, they were still opposites in many ways, as reflected in their wishes regarding life support. Janet wanted every possible measure taken. Marty said, “If I’m on my way out, don’t get in my way.” At the time, I saw a
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Writing a Loving Obituary Ahead of Time

A few years ago, while they were still healthy and independent and a comfortable distance—it seemed to me—from dying, my parents asked me to write their obituaries. “I know it seems strange,” Dad said. “But we’d like to be sure that everything important gets mentioned.” After my initial discomfort with writing
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Talking About End-of-Life Decisions With Your Parent

When we were children and adolescents, our parents had the challenging responsibility of talking with us about difficult topics. Teaching us the facts of life, guiding us to choose good friends, and cautioning us about smoking and drug use were never easy discussions to have. Raising these topics was doubly hard
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Reverence: The Image of God Respected

“The younger monks must respect their seniors, and the seniors must love their juniors.” —The Rule of St. Benedict, Ch. 63 The monastery cemetery is a place of order. Four quadrants of seven rows each; nice neat rows of markers, each bearing a name and two dates; and in the middle, overlooking everything with
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